May 17, 2019
Incidental Events: Life is Not a Stream
Think about it... Life is not a nice little stream that just flows along making things easy and beautiful until our time is done at which time we flow into a lovely lake to meet up with those we love. Our stream has 'events' that make a difference and affect our entire lives and many of our choices. Sometimes they are so small we hardly notice it at the time let alone realize it will affect the rest of our lives in some way. There are times when one word changes our entire outlook and we are not even aware of it, nor will we realize its significance until many years later. I think that is what life is all about. The first incident is how we got formed into a person. Our Mom had sex... if that's not an event that lead to an incident, I don't know what is. As a result of that event we are alive. Take it from there, make your list.
It has taken many years to figure out what has affected my general attitude of sometimes-angry-for-no-apparent-reason. An 'attitude' that caused me to think sharp, learn to do things, be independent, call a turd a turd, and why I don't worry about what others think because I finally found out why I was able to handle what was dished out! We may cry about it and not be wild about the path life has taken, but if we know why we feel this way, we can fix it! We can give ourselves credit for enduring it, adapting to it, being strong, and making our life good either because of it or in spite of it. Either way every incident is an event that makes us who we are.
My mother did not like me. I was born into a large family evidently at the wrong, unexpected time and many years later I learned how much of a difference seemingly small things make! Her actions and words affected how the entire family thought about me. I have realized that my mother never once in my life said anything nice to me, or about me. That is all anyone in the family ever heard: " she does not stand up straight, she should have gone right instead of left, her voice is too loud, she won't eat Asparagus." Nothing was ever good or positive.
One day at age 5 I fell out of a large beautiful walnut tree in shock after watching the neighbor shoot their cow on the other side of the fence. The wind was knocked out of me and I laid there on the ground gasping, sobbing about the lovely, dead cow. I finally managed to get up and staggered into the house crying, dirty... "Mom, they killed the cow and I fell out of the tree."
"I told you not to climb the tree," she snarled, "now shut up, the baby is trying to sleep."
Is it any mystery why the family still does not like me? I never did anything to harm anyone in any way yet they will not associate with me because all they ever heard about me was negative comments. Keep that in mind when you talk about someone. Keep in mind our words are important in ways we might never imagine.
I married young and since I had no idea where babies came from, I was pregnant with one. The 'incidental event' of child birth teaches a woman more things than anyone can ever imagine, not always good. In spite of everything, I managed to give birth to a healthy child... the 23rd child in that hospital in three days! The staff was so tired the Doctor was laying in the labor room trying to sleep while I laid there alone and scared moaning loudly. The results? Nurse: "Shut up, can't you see the doctor is trying to sleep! Yours will be the 23rd child in three days, at least let him rest!"
When I had come in to the ward earlier that evening I was laying in a room with 5 beds full of women in various stages of labor. Some were just laying there, some were screaming. One lady who had been laying there asleep when I came in, suddenly woke up and yelled "Nurse!" as she pulled back the blankets, opened her legs and out shot a baby! And I mean that little creature ended up near the foot of the bed it came out so fast. In the meantime several young males, one at a time, would come in and tell me to open my legs they had to check the "dilation". One after the other. Blood flowing out of me. The Doctor finally came in to check on me and said: "I wonder why you are bleeding like this?"
I said: "Might want to ask all those men who have been checking my lady parts"...
What I learned from this event was do not hesitate to tell everyone what you want, think and feel regardless of where you are! Luckily my child was healthy and a lot smarter than her young mother because when I came home My Mother was there for only one afternoon! She showed me how to change a diaper, make a bottle of formula, handed me a book by Dr. Benjamin Spock: The Common Sense Book Of Baby Care, and drove off. For weeks I held the baby in one arm and the book in the other, and between the book and nature we all managed to survive. But I am positive if I had not been forced to live my life in an independent mode I might not have done as well as I did. Maybe my family did not like me, but nature sent me a new little human being who did.
I think another thing that made me handle things pretty well was what had happened about a month earlier. I was big pregnant, cranky, my husband was gone most of the time leaving me to care for my cranky self and the little puppy he had smuggled across the Mexican border in the glove box of the car 6 months earlier. "Lady"-the-dog was running free and we lived on a very busy street. I had to run out into traffic to keep her from getting hit by a car! I tossed her into the back seat of my car and started screaming at her! "Lady! Stay! Damn you!" (and a lot of other salty words to that affect).
An elderly couple was walking by as I was throwing my fit. The lady quietly walked over to me and said very gently: "My dear, you are too young to be a Shrew". Did I say small incidents made a difference?
One sentence taught me so much. To this day when I am in a shrew mode I hear my spirit angel lady say: Were you not listening?
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